You Can Still Cross the Water After the Bridge Burns.

After I read this post at Russian Ramblings. I started thinking about a few friendships I have walked away from because of  some harsh words or some spiky, defensive behavior, or the times when I chased some friends away when I fell into a depression or had some difficulties and took some of it out on my friends even though I would regret it later.

When a friend is pushing you away and is behaving in a very unfriendly manner, it is often a sign of shutting down the emotional grid. Sometimes  you have to think about whether or not you can actually help them without going down with the relationship. You have to assess your abilities and strengths and see how they match up with the difficulties.  You may have to back off a little, but a few well meaning questions, a low pressure invitation, just a “hey, did ya know I was thinking about you” approach can make a big difference. Maybe your friend just needs to know who her real friends are, friends that will hang in there through the tough battles.  Just because someone lights your bridge on fire, doesn’t mean you have to let it burn, or that you can’t come back in a little while in a small boat and talk about rebuilding.

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Doodling Day

I have been playing with some photos of the wood grain on the walls and ceiling in my bedroom. I get lost in color and form. It is like exploring  the landscape of a new world.

I slip into hyperfocus and travel into the images, lost for hours deep in my own space.

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Naturally Artificial

If we are indeed part of nature then everything people make is part of nature. I think that we need to figure out what is useful and beautiful in people made things and what interferes with our lives. People are born to explore the world in all its complexities natural and artificial. Many of the art materials we use are not “natural”, but provide inspiration through color and form. We need to decide what materials are too costly and disruptive to our environment and how to use resources to make our lives better while not harming our world. Some of this involves using man made materials. Artificial is not necessarily bad. Natural is not necessarily good. Many toxins are natural and certainly we could not to go back to the time when everybody had to rely directly on nature to survive. There are too many people in the world. We just need to remember that we are part of an ecosystem that we rely on for survival and inspiration. We need to blend technology with nature and feel comfortable with both. It is the only way forward.

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From Toilets to Big Work Machines: Preschool Obsessions and Experiences

Two pile-drivers at the Towers at Capitol Mall...

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I have been so busy this week writing little responses to my preschool list. Today it was bathrooms and skyscrapers. Here is the skyscraper part. I will skip the one about bathrooms. I hear enough potty jokes everyday to last me forever. What can I say: it is where the action is for a lot of preschoolers. But they also get very excited about caterpillars, bubbles, and skyscrapers, about which we have many lively discussions making my job much less bathroom oriented, which is nice for me.

When I worked in Seattle we did a half year project on tall buildings and construction. We took the children to look at construction sites and up in a skyscraper. I don’t remember all of the documentation we did, but illustrated books was a big part of it along with a lot of sandbox, cardboard and block exploration. Another time there was a construction project just down the street from our daycare and we monitored the progress. Children noted the different big work machines used, and drew illustrations of them for a book. That was more of a side project as the girls at that time where into clothes design and modeling.

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More About My Work

I did not intend to write this as a blog entry, but someone on the Reggio Emilia list asked me to describe our program. So this is what I do when I am not waggling my fingers over a keyboard.

The main thing about my work is that I devote all my time to planning the environment and taking children’s ideas and designing activities that suit the group. Mostly I work on activities that I can put out and each child can use in their own way. This summer we disassembled a typewriter.

All the children worked on it. The 7 year old got the most out of it, but our 2 year olds used screwdrivers and wire cutters and had a great experience also. For math we do a calendar with patterns. We choose one more symbol each month. Each symbol has a different color. We do not do this at circle, but during free choice, and as our classroom is so small all the children participate either actively or passively in the process. We are also creating a paper chain that will by the end of the year circle our classroom.
We have circle at about 10:00 after about 1 1/2 hours of free choice. Circle is pretty much this: I read a book. We discuss what we will do that day. We have sharing in which children talk about what they have brought from home to share, or do a dance, or sing a song, or share a project they are working on. Then we have snack and discuss more of what we would like to do that day or the rest of the week. After that we have pretty much free choice until 2:30 when we clean up and have quiet table time, and our Spanish teacher comes in for 15 minutes of Spanish. For lunch, at about 12:00, I clean off our work table and tell children it is ready for them their lunch.  At quiet table time children bring a chosen activity to the table to work. They also have the choice of helping me clean the room. Spanish is usually the Spanish teacher reading a story in Spanish and she and I speaking in Spanish with the children while I clean the room in preparation for the end of the day. About 12:45 if some children have not eaten, I ask them to eat at least one item from their lunch. Our school provides an ample snack. Children bring their lunches.
At one point during the year I had the children sign in, which some of them did very readily learning to write their names quickly while others were not interested at all. All of the older children are actively involved in the reading/writing process through their own choice. There is so much more, but it really mostly applies to our group and may not translate well to another. If you want you can ask me questions and I can send you some pictures of our environment. But again, our environment is pretty unique and may not translate to your situation. Have you looked into using The Creative Curriculum as an open ended model. We did this in our Reggio based Head Start program just to cover our documentation obligations to the Feds. It worked well. Always too much paper work, but it did not hinder our explorations.

This week we are planting seed starts for our garden project along with the usual mayhem.

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