Time to Write

Looking back over the last week I see a spotty record of hit and miss writing. And, when I look at the challenges some people face in getting to the keyboard, I feel a little lazy and lax. My days are just a little full and I am a little tired.

Mary, my wife, is in school all day until 6:30 pm. It is my job after my job to see to dinner and other matters household stability. I know a lot of women and some men have been doing this for a long time, and I am not complaining. I usually do a lot around the house, but Mary is the one who likes to cook. I am the one who cooks when I have to. I do the laundry and clean the kitchen after dinner as my contribution to daily housework. Now I am doing it all, which is alright, but this week I have added a cold into mix and by 9 or 10 pm (my usual writing time) I have been brain dead or spending some quality time with Mary. Quality time with the children consists of “have you started your homework?” Like I said I am not complaining yet. Wait until my car breaks or people start throwing up, then I will start swearing*.

*I have decided to swear in non-sense words. If you have seen “Firefly,” a very interesting series that Fox cancelled after half a season, or the movie “Serenity,” You will get the idea. As a preschool teacher, I have always advocated for non-offensive swearing and teach my parents this skill. It you stub your toe in a preschool classroom you have to say something.

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Quick Notes on Play in a Head Start Classroom

Someone asked me these questions last year in an Email, and I am looking forward to playing tomorrow as we start our second week of class so here are some of my thoughts on the real work of preschoolers and preschool teachers.

 1. Name one thing children learn when they play together.

Children learn how to share space and problem solve, how to get what they want and take into account the needs of others. Also children learn how to have fun and stay safe within limits that allow others to cooperate with them, build collaborative ideas together.

2. How many times a day do you actively play with children?

20 to 30 times in a 3 1/2 hour class period.

3. What do you like to play with children?

Sometimes I am verbally playing. At meal times I will play rhyming games or joking play or ask riddles. During outside time we do a lot of singing and movement games. I like to sit and build or use construction materials with children. We do floor puzzles in small groups. I like to have a lot of active movement and games in circle, even reading books has a lot of playful interaction that teaches children how to have fun and stay within limits.

4. Name one problem adults have when playing with children.

Each child has a different temperament and style and sometimes the adult’s style does not interact well with the child’s in play situations. Some children are very serious and focused and do like interruptions, and adults often invade children’s space without consideration. Also some adults do not know how to set limits so that whatever play is going on feels safe for everyone. Adults often do not pay attention to children’s reactions to their actions and words.

5. Name one problem adults have when they play together.

The same things, some adults are very competitive and intense when they play or may need defined rules, whereas others are more into the flow of the game and the poetry, the unfolding story of it rather than rules.

6. What is the most important thing children learn when they play together?

They learn to adjust themselves to the world which includes their behavior, attitudes and how they deal with conflicts and respond in ways the makes sense to others as well as learning that people are fun to be with.

7. Do children ask you to play with them? Constantly in many different ways. Some will clearly ask with words. Some will begin by joking with me. Some will come up and push me while smiling. Some will say something like, “Nana, nana, boo, boo you can’t catch me!” and tear off in the opposite direction.

8. At what age do children play cooperatively in groups? True cooperative play usually starts in older three year olds or younger 4 year olds. But it all depends on the maturity and temperament of the child. Sometimes younger children look like they are engaged in cooperative play, but if you look closely they are engaged in parallel play in the same area.

9. Name one thing you learn when you play with children?

I learn about the child, how she plays and at what skill level– verbal, physical and cognitive as well as social– she is operating at. I learn what she likes and is inspired by. All of this helps me plan curriculum and help the parents plan activities that will best suit the child’s developmental needs. 

 

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My Favorite Uncle

My mother called me on Friday night to tell me that my dad’s brother was dying that he would probably be gone in less than twenty-four hours. He is by far my favorite uncle and I have many fond memories of him all the way from childhood to recently. She called again today to tell me that he had passed away. He was about 75 years old and had been sick for many years.

His ill-health was one of the reasons I got to reconnect with him. He came to stay with my parents after assisting his wife in suicide. She had a painful, debilitating disease that was in its last virulent phase, and being a courageous and thoughtful man he helped her to end her pain. At that point he was still able to take care of himself at least somewhat. About a year later, he had to have some minor operations and his kidneys were going. I visited him in the hospital several times and learned some things about my father that helped me understand him a little better. It did not help me much in coping with his behavior, but it put pieces into the scattered puzzle picture I have of my father. My uncle also gave me an example of selfless love. Even in his debilitated condition he worked hard to reconcile my parents and their children.

He was a minister, a chaplain in the navy, and had a good and open heart. He talked loudly and laughed louder. He told corny jokes and had a million puns and he was an expert tickler. He was enthusiastic and sometimes manically so and often was not the most sensitive person, but his overbearing humor often lightened heavy moments. He struggled with depression his whole life and I think underneath all that loud laughter was an extremely sensitive man. I always got the feeling of care and interest when I was with him in his quieter moments.

My father’s relationship with his brother was often strained and critical, competitive. And in the end, I could not be in the same room with my dad when my uncle was there. My father became impossibly overbearing and critical of him as if each conversation were some kind of competition. My conversations with my uncle were always gentle and supportive and full of kind humor. He was I think a sad and gentle soul who tried to lighten his world with a laugh loud enough to chase the darkness away. I will miss him and his laughter.

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Evolution, Me & Other Freaks of Nature

I just finished this novel by Robin Brande and I found it to be full of good points about how religion and science can support each other and how religion disguised as science (creationism) creates false impressions of bias in schools. There are some good examples of how the bible actually supports the theory of evolution. The book is well written from a high school student’s perspective in diary form. It was a little harsh on the fundamentalist point of view, and the protagonists parents were portrayed as two dimensional plot devices, but then a lot of teenagers see their parents this way.

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Some Nice Things That Happened In Class Today

  1. A child in my class pointed to another child who she had been playing with for about 20 minutes and said, “I love him.” Now to a four year old this is not a big commitment just a efusive feeling of momentary good feeling.
  2. A conversation I had with a child: Child “I want some honey.” Me “Why do you want honey.” Child “I’m hungry.” Me “We will eat lunch in 10 minutes. First you need to go out so that I can wash the tables and get ready.” Child “I don’t want to go out. I want peanut butter.” Me “We don’t have peanut butter.” she looked shocked. “Do you have jelly?” Me “No and no honey either.” again shock. “Then how do we make sandwiches?” Me “We have macaroni and cheese today.” she summoned up all her patience and sighed (teachers are really dense sometimes) “Well, that is not sandwiches.” She turned in disgust and went outside.
  3. There were no injuries, major assaults and no one threw up or had an accident.
  4. The child that took all things out in housekeeping (our resident dump and run expert) actually helped to clean up.
  5. The rain stopped so we could go outside. We haven’t quite got our rainy day schedule completely worked out yet. Things could get complicated. I’m sure it will all be OK, but give us a couple of weeks please.
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