Dreams of Last October

Posted on October 8, 2012 by randomyriad

10/3/11

I am playing football with women wearing long blood-red dresses. They slide and leap, run and catch, laughing and sprawling about without worries about rules or keeping score.

10/4

In the long hall I supervise the rearranging of beds and other furniture.

“I’ll need that bed over here.” I say to two guys.

They lift and scoot the black tubular metal frame, the thin mattress covered in a shabby gold spread. We have many more pieces to place in the dimming space.

Eventually I head outside into the bright suburban day. I am in a race. My partner (generic medium female) and I stop at a convenience store for a snack and watch the other teams pass by on their scooters w/sidecars.

10/5

I am at a reunion in a small New England town with my large family and friends. We are staying at an inn with a huge 2 level dining hall.

“Can you believe Dede and Ida wore the same dress one time,” I say knowing that my dream cousins have very eccentric and original taste in clothes.

Later I try to walk up a wooden ramp to the upper level, but being too drunk,  slid and rolled to the bottom, sprawling on the floor where a waitress lay down and begins to remove my clothes and have sex with me, but gives up and leaves when she notices how drunk I am.

Suddenly I am in the backseat of a car driven by my son and my older son is in the passenger seat. 

“Be careful. It gets tricky around here,” I say. “You can’t turn left.”

We are driving next to Golden Gate Park in San Francisco. We come to a fork in the road. Some DEA agents have set up a roadblock. One agent steps right in front of the car. My son tries to steer around. We pull to the side. The agent whose only identification is a Black vest with DEA printed in large white letters on the back. He motions for us to get out of the car.

“I want to see your badge first,” I yell as I am rolling down my window.
10/6

Dream Movie:I am watching a movie with Woody Harrelson  as a fire fighter who is helping Mr. Spock save the earth by solving some crimes having to  with ATMs. Spock calls him to create a diversion. He blocks the a very large road with his red fire fighter pick-up.

“You see, Spock, now we will get these cars backed up a good 1/2 mile,” he says waving his hand at the gathering traffic. ” And, then we’re gonna let Jenkins come and look in here at you, because he’s done such a lot of good work on the cash machine thing.”

“Woody Harrelson is so good,” I say as I watch the movie unfold and Jenkins look into the truck and the face of Mr. Spock.

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I Will Write What I Will Write How I Will Write It.

Posted on October 5, 2012 by randomyriad

Keep going pen moving

words no syllables forming

no screaming

rage only

Scratching, dead and

does not move making the illusion

of life pass away.

We travel into the spotlight sunset

raving and looning

extravagant claims on the never arriving future.

The next word is my future.

the next blink of a thought.

I am in the future passing into a mist,

already dead one hundred years.

So why do I fear every move?
 Each breath a life, each life on fire

with every exhale.

scorching the earth with my remnant air.

here is that tiny doorstep of breath before the yet to be opened door

I can open or wait for the other side to bloom forth into me

take me in the cradling petals that evaporate into soft air.

 

 

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A Little Distance and a Lot of Focus = A Bit of Light and Hope

Posted on September 15, 2012 by randomyriad

It’s easy to talk about bad years if they are past. 

But when you have to say who you are right at this very moment,

it’s hard to get more out than an uneasy silence.   

Herta Muller from the Appointment

I know my last post came out a little on the dark side. There are points in life that seem black, but when you take a little time and sort things out the black becomes a little grey and then little pin holes of light come through.  With some helpful conversations with some good friends and a few wise comments from some compassionate bloggers,  I now see the shadowed edges of the tunnel  forming.  I just needed to some more perspective and little more light to see my way forward. 

Last week I got some very bad news. My wife of 27 years told me that she no longer wanted to be married to me, and since then we have been trying to figure out what that means for our lives. After many gut wrenching and demoralizing discussions involving the ways in which she felt I had not listened to her or supported her. I had a slightly different take on these, but I could see her point of view (I can be very dense especially when I am under stress). From my point of view, I was making sacrifices to keep our family afloat and help her with her goals. My wife is a very take charge, proactive, organizer by nature, whereas I am a free flow, day-dreaming, stress avoiding type. Therefore, I always let her manage our finances and long term logistics, because I knew if I did it A) I would probably screw up left and right and B) she would be telling me how to do it right. She is an amazing and wonderful person and mostly responsible for our children making it to adulthood in pretty good shape. I have to say I have been a pretty good father too, but I am, as I said before, challenged in proactive department especially when things get busy or complicated. She was almost always half way to solving whatever problem at the same time I became aware that there was a problem to solve. I am in the end a overly sensitive and mostly inept man, who loves her a lot. I can see how she might want to see what her life could be without dragging me along. It just hurts like hell to see it that way.

We still love each other, but in her words “Things have to change”. She wants to live separately for a while, and I am slowly coming to terms with this. I can definitely see the validity of most of her point of view. My problems come from the lack of conversation, maybe I just wasn’t listening until she stated the situation in clear terms ( like I said before, dense) but, as I pointed out to her, we might have at least tried some counseling. Instead she enlisted a therapist in order to clarify things for herself. Obviously she is more clear on what she wants, but I think that after 27 years, there might be some point in figuring a way forward that involves both of us. I am beginning to feel a little optimistic that this will happen, though our relationship will have to go through some deep redefining rehab along the way. This terrifies and intrigues me. I have no idea what we will come up with in the end.

The situation I was reacting to seemed worse than the situation that actually existed, but that does not negate the question. I had to write about it to ease the stress and pain a little, and to get a realistic idea of how to proceed from that dark place. The Question I posed in the last post was kind of, but not completely, personal.The part about the pain was real enough, but it was also more generally about how amazing it is that people are able to face dark situations that threaten to envelop their whole existence in misery. When faced with overwhelming loss even though mostly I am frozen in the dark, my brain and body keep moving on autopilot while the emotional me figures out how to cope. When all of the atoms of my universe feel as if they are blown into violent flux, surprisingly, I continue as a cohesive organism. I may yet dissolve, but I most likely I will stabilize into some new pattern and move on into a less painful chaos.

When you are alive you must experience change. There is nothing you can completely count on except  around the next corner there is something obvious you are not seeing, and it is holding a big cream pie. Or somebody will let go of the rope and a piano will come crashing down. You will probably live through it whether you want to or not. Maybe in a little while you might be able laugh. I am looking forward to that time.

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The Question of The Day

Posted on September 5, 2012 by randomyriad

Why keep going when it makes no sense, when the pain is all pervasive and inescapable and not the kind that I can take a pill for that leaves me conscious? Why get up in the morning? Why go to bed when I feel like a rotten tooth broken down to the nerve and my mind is a rusty probe digging at it saying:  “Does this hurt?”

Why should I continue with this when I am just stumbling around in the mud doing prat falls over my own viscera? I am of no use to anyone in this condition least of all myself. If there was a way to cease to exist without messing up the world and causing more pain I would be considering it. But, our lives are connected in so many complex ways that anything I do to save me will result in the same pain for someone else. That is the reason,  at least for me at this point, for the continued face plants and endless nights. Right now I can see no hope for improvement. I have to go on. What else is there to do?

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Century #24: Arrival

Posted on August 19, 2012 by randomyriad

From the journal of Ryan Tucker

River Bend Academy of Art

8/21/1982

 

I have arrived, and settled into my room, which is small just big enough for an old military style metal bunk with a thin mattress and a small desk with an old wooden chair. There is a closet low built in drawers and dowel to hang clothes on. The bathroom is down the hall.

The room is narrow with the desk at the end opposite the door and in front of a window, which takes up most of the wall above the desk that looks out onto a courtyard. I can see most of the college from here. The ceilings are high and curved at the edges with fancy moldings that have been painted over in the stark white of the walls. I will have to cover the walls with paper and paint and draw. I will get lost in all this empty white.

The dorm manager is a stout middle-aged East Indian woman with an expressive face and seems very kind and flustered, the kind of person who is always worrying about other peoples problems as much as her own. I am sure she knows all the secrets around here.

“You should call me Ms. B. I could tell you my name, but you will never pronounce it right anyway,” She said laughing, “So why should we both be put through that test. My late husband who was also from India and a very intelligent man, could never get it quite right. So why should I expect more from you.”

 

“It is not the Waldorf Astoria, you know, but it’s not a bad place to live for a while,” she told me as she opened the door to my room. “And, you know, there is no room service.” When she smiles, which is often, her whole face crinkles up.

 

There is nobody else here. They are either still away on break, or not arrived yet.

 

The air is dry and the sky cloudless and pale with smog around the edges. This is a flat place. To the east are hazy foothills and the faint outline of mountains. To the west about 30 miles, the smudge of ragged hills rise beyond which is the coast and San Francisco. I hope to get over there and see some art galleries and just look around before I get too busy.

It is just after 1:00 in the afternoon and it is very hot in here. The window is open but there is no breeze. I feel like I am sleepwalking. The long train ride made sleeping difficult along with the shock of new surroundings makes me feel as if I have traveled into another dimension. I look down on the courtyard and I can see very little that would date past the 1950’s.  There are a couple of “modern for the ‘50’s” two story buildings, where the studios and classrooms are.  The dorms are like early 1900’s barracks, 3 story “U” shaped buildings. Though obviously meant for more upscale clientele when they were built but have settled into a more low-rent quality, as if they have developed low self-esteem.

I can’t decide whether to go out exploring or sleep. I think I will get some sleep, and then maybe go out exploring. I will feel a little more adventurous if I am more alert.

 

10:00 pm

 

After I woke up from my nap I decided to go for a walk. As I was leaving Ms. B, let me know that there is food in the kitchen to use as long as I clean up after myself.

 “You would not believe the mess in here sometimes,” She told me eyes wide and finger wagging. “So if you not going to clean up, please eat somewhere else. But I know you are a considerate boy. I can tell,” she finished off with a wide crinkly smile. Her gestures and facial expressions are so exaggerated, but also sincere in the way she does not take herself too seriously. I have no doubt though that I should stay on her good side. I am sure she has her ways of keeping good boys in line.

I just stood there and nodded with a stupid look on my face. I never know what to say to people.

I walked on the paths around the college and found one up to the top of the levee. I looked out over the river for a while. Sitting there in the heat sketching the far bank as the shadows stretched, I wonder If I will meet people who will stretch me like Bella, or are easy to hang with like Dex or Maggie. Bella is always talking and jumping around so that I always felt 2 steps behind. For the first time I feel like I am on my own path. But I am pretty sure that will change when other students start showing up.

 

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